Dear John,
I hate to sound like a stereotype, but I'm 26 years old and I'm feeling lost. I finished university three years ago, went traveling for a bit, came home and did some odd jobs, but don't feel like I have any direction whatsoever.
Okay, I
do sound like a stereotype, but it seems like most of my friends are feeling the same way. My degree was really vague – history and psychology – and I pursued it just because it interested me, not because I saw any career prospects in it. When my parents were my age, they were already married, started on their careers (that they're still in) and had me. I just don't see a specific path to take and feel anxious all the time, wondering where my life is going to go. Is this "quarter life crisis" valid, and should I just suck it up and pick something to do?
Dear Feeling lost
There is nothing wrong with pursuing what interests you. If it is your passion, it is the path you should follow. The worst thing is when people go into a field they "think" they should be in, due to well-meaning parents, or specific values related to a profession – such as a doctor or lawyer.
Some people who go into those professions strictly for the money or status should have stayed working elsewhere.
There may be less career prospects in your current area, but that just means you will have to fight harder to get them. That, or you could take another course of study, something that would pay the bills, yet allow you to pursue your true passion as well. I think your "quarter life crisis" is perfectly valid. You are under pressure from your own personal expectations, as well as those around you, to make a move on the career and maybe start on a family. It can be a tough time, and no doubt anxiety inducing at some stage. Talk to your parents and see if they can offer any suggestions - other than get a real job. Sit down and make a list of the pros and cons of your current situation. Then make a list of your goals for the next month, six months, year and five years.
Many people I know (myself included) have made vision or dream boards, which help you visualise your goals. All you need are a few materials to get started. There are various websites that offer ideas on how to set them up and materials to use.
Failing all else, maybe go talk to a career counselor. They can help you get on the right path, or suggest how to make changes to your current one to enhance your progress, rather than hinder it.
Kind regards
John
John provides a professional, confidential counseling service, to book an appointment contact 0872889720.
Send your problems to johnfarrelly@counsellor.com
